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  • Kylie van Gelder

Trying Not to Suck at Life Can Be Really Hard Sometimes

There are days when I want to give up on getting better

As a Life Coach, part of my job is to help my clients see the light in becoming a better person. To guide them in the direction of self-discovery and the ever-so-fantastic journey that comes with it. Then there are days when I get a reality check and I struggle to do more than make a cup of tea.

In all honesty, this personal development journey is hard work. It’s exhausting sometimes.

There are days I want to give up and veg out in front of Netflix, drink some beer, eat a bowl of pasta and follow it by a bag of chips. I’m a carbs gal if you didn’t notice.

On these days, I want to coast. To give up trying harder, because often it’s simply hard to not suck at life. Like really hard.

You have to do the work every flipping day of the week, month and year… forever. Now if that’s not daunting, what is?

I mean really, do I have to be a better person?

“Insanity is coasting through life.” — Morgan Freeman

Well, according to Mr. Freeman, I do.

How to not give up On the days when I feel like giving up, instead of actually calling it quits, I think about all I’ve achieved and the relationships I’ve built with myself and others.

I write about the amazing mindset shifts I’ve made and the improvements to the overall wellbeing of my family.

I dig deep, sometimes really, really deep, to realign with why I started on this path in the first place.

These flashes of hope. These glimpses of light during my I-want-to-suck-at-life days are what pull me back. I can see the progress I’ve made and how much happier I am.

I’m doing what I love and discovering new things I love.

Now don’t get me wrong, I still veg out sometimes and I have shitty days where nothing useful comes out. I also love me a cold beer or a glass of red wine, but I limit these and my chip/pasta in take.

I do this because I know they take me down the next day.

They set me off my purpose to become a better person and to help other ladies discover their greatness within.

When things get easier It’s really flipping hard, until it’s not. Until you get out of your own head. Until you accept that you’re allowed to have shitty days. Until you look at how far you’ve come.

When you look back and see all the tiny steps you’ve made and realize they now amount to a gigantic freaking leap forward, you find motivation to keep going.

You give up on sucking at life and you connect to your purpose again.

It’s hard. Some days are harder than others, but it’s so worth not throwing in the towel. The more you practice pulling yourself out of these sucky days, the easier it gets.

It’s worth using these I suck days as a chance to learn and grow.


In the end, we all have a choice. We can choose to fall prey to the temping version of life where we coast through it, or we can put in the work to become a better person. Naturally, being better is harder, but it also makes you happier. Wouldn’t it be nice to be happier for the rest of your life?

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